Your community, family, and close friends can play a huge part in your values and ideals. It’s not uncommon to allow the people closest to you to have an effect on your views on certain people and lifestyles. For myself and many other people within the black community, I have witnessed homophobic slurs or overall uncomfortability with the LGBTQIA community by my relatives and close friends. But why is this so prominent amongst a marginalized group of people?
The Religion Justification
When I’ve asked some relatives or close friends why they don’t support the LGBTQIA community, their first response was religion. They usually would quote bible verses and explain to me that “God made Adam and Eve to procreate” or “Gay people will not be accepted into the gates of heaven.” But I always wondered why this so called “sin” of being gay outweighs the other sins of lust, greed, wrath, envy, and pride.
Now don’t get me wrong, I’ve been a Christian my whole life and have a great relationship with God, but this justification seems morally wrong. God wouldn’t want us bearing hate within our hearts to anyone, gay or straight. This dislike is something that is taught and passed down to the coming generations. We need to leave it up to God to decide whats morally wrong, and not speak for him by justifying personal uncomfortability with the bible.
Hypocrisy of Anti-Discriminatory Views
In the current times of Black Lives Matter and overall civil unrest in the protesting of police brutality, we as a community shouldn’t be discriminating amongst another community of people. After the killings of Breonna Taylor, George Floyd, Oluwatoyin Salau, and many other African Americans, the Black Lives Matter hashtag and motto has developed increased attention. The hypocrisy in that is we say that black lives matter, but don’t believe that queer black lives matter too.
The black community sometimes has a habit of forgetting about the LGBTQIA community. We can’t preach about police, racists, and white conservatives treating us with the utmost respect, and not putting stereotypes on us, if we have similar behavior towards the LGBTQIA community. Not only do black queer people have to face the discrimination of their race, but some have to struggle with the discrimination of their sexuality amongst the black community which they also belong.
Rejection of Queerness in the Media
The presence of queerness within the media simply can’t be ignored. There have been people on social media protesting queer people in major roles in tv shows or movies because it’s “inappropriate for children”. We cant censor a community that is prevalent and has been around for years. Just like we never thought we would see the day that a black person would be in a major TV role, that accomplishment is life changing for members of the queer community. The black community and the queer community are both underrepresented, and we must join forces and fight for the same mainstream recognition that the majority receives.
The best thing we as a black community can do is to educate ourselves and have the utmost respect for the community. I’m not saying everyone has to be an ally or attend the next pride parade, but we can do more to show our support. We can’t tolerate or participate in the homophobic slurs or be a bystander for the senseless murders and beatings of members of the LGBTQIA community. We simply cannot continue to ignore it, because their community isn’t going anywhere. We must acknowledge and give their community the respect they deserve.